Proud To Be a Tewahedo Orthodox Girl – Part 7

The day of our engagement was surreal and extra special, because Deacon Hermon and I had not seen each other since the first day we met and here we were getting engaged six months later in front of our priests, parents, siblings, relatives and friends.  It was amazing!  The world as we know it would call us crazy, but what the world didn’t know is Deacon Hermon and I did not get engaged by the standard of the world. We put God first and did everything by God’s standard. We wanted to please God and not the world.

At our engagement celebration, I couldn’t believe if this was really happening. It felt like a dream, because I had waited for this day patiently and after being introduced to so many guys that were not compatible to what I was looking for, it often made me feel like this day would never come. But by God’s grace it really did come. I learned one of the best lessons in my life that day. When you put God first and you are obedient to God. He blesses and when He blesses, your cup overflows with His amazing blessing. 

What a blessing it was for mine and Deacon Hermon’s paths to have crossed. God truly orchestrated the way we met.  Both Deacon Hermon and I, were at a point in our lives where we had given up on marriage from all the divorces that we had seen and the way some married couples talked to each other with disrespect and no love in their heart. The year we met, Deacon Hermon was planning on going to the monastery to become a monk. I felt like I was in a tug of war, because I wanted to wait on God, but I also felt the pressure from everyone around me to get married.

One month, before I met Deacon Hermon, there was a young gentlemen I was introduced to. He was a Doctor, an Internal Medicine Doctor to be exact. He flew from the state he was from and came to meet me and wanted to get engaged right away. I personally didn’t care how much money he made or how big his house was or the fancy car he was driving. I wanted a Guy who put GOD first, not his career and definitely not worldly things. I politely told him, he was not the one for me after he told me, he goes to church only when he can and sometimes on Easter and Christmas. I’m sure many of you can understand when I tell you, the family that introduced us and everyone that knew about him thought I was crazy for saying no. They couldn’t understand why in the world I would say no to someone who was such a nice doctor. He was sweet and kind, but deep down inside I knew he was not the man God had for me.

My faith and religion, was something that I would never compromise and I would never dare give up for anyone. My number one requirement was, he had to be a man who was after God’s own heart and who was strong in our Tewahedo Orthodox faith, but he certainly didn’t have to be a deacon. I didn’t set out to find someone who was a Deacon. Deacon Hermon, being a deacon was an added bonus from God. Our amazing Heavenly Father knew the desires of my heart and He kept telling me, to wait patiently I have exactly what you need. I patiently waited and He blessed me with a Godly man that He had made just for me. Not only was he a strong Tewahedo Orthodox believer. He had Christ in his heart and he had the fear of God. He didn’t want to do anything displeasing to God. So he honored and respected me from the moment we met.

And now that we were engaged, we would be permitted to spend time together. It would allow us to get to know each other and to see if we truly wanted to get married and spend the rest of our lives together. This is what’s called the “Dating Period” in our Tewahedo Orthodox faith.

To be continued …

9 comments

  1. Egziabher yistelen for sharing! I’ve been looking forward to this. It gives me hope and some kind of direction; I hope you know it has been really helpful.

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  2. We all are waiting for this story, even though we know the end, it helps to learn the jourey. By the way wow the young Fr. Hermon on the pic!

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    1. Hahaha….the way you described the young Fr. Hermon is right on!! He was wow internally and externally, but to me I still think of him that way today and will till the day I die😊 When you can say that, that’s when you know you’ve been blessed with true love 🙏

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      1. Hahha wow is the only word I could come up with. A gentelman He is, well groomed and very calm. Yes you both have been blessed Selam haftey. May God continue to bless your union till the end.

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  3. Amen 🙏🏿 Glory be to God Igzeé’abér, such a beautiful Couple and such magnificent words and experience which strengthened you both and will strengthen others I hope. I too in the 6 grade was told by my teacher who was a really nice man and treated me good. One day he said to the class the reason I was black is because when God was making man He forgot about me in the oven and I burnt. It made me so sad I cried at recess by myself and didn’t tell anyone. I actually remember praying to God and asking Him why and how could you forget me. Believe it or not at that age 11 it had an effect on me cause the devil was portrayed as black and God as white. I didn’t even care to go to my graduation my mom forced me. I didn’t have confidence until God spoke to me at the age of 19. He revealed Himself to me and showed me that He is black and He loved me very much and that He was going to change my life. So I can relate to the racism you have experienced. I commend you and your husband your both look so cute together. Keep up the great works and may God Igzeé’abér continue to bless your marriage and your good works in Yesus Kristos Amen 🙏🏿

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    1. Amen and All Glory be to God🙏🏽 Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your story. Sometimes to move on we put our bad experiences behind us, until we find ourselves reflecting on our past. What your teacher said to you was unkind and what a shame for him to use God’s name. As he truly didn’t know God. Thank God that experience and I’m sure many more of your life experiences has made you the person you are today. So wonderful to hear regardless of what you went through, you overcame and ended up have a loving relationship with our Gracious and Merciful God. May God bless you 🙏🏽

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